Third of three parts …
By Nancy Bounds
Darick Stark, 25, met Sylvia Miller, 24, five years ago at Belmont Mennonite Church, where they both attend the young adult group.
“She gave me the evil eye at first,” Darick says. “I don’t think she liked me.”
“That’s just how I am,” Sylvia says. “I don’t say much until I get to know someone.” She looks across the table at Darick and giggles. “I must like you, I’m marrying you aren’t I?”
Darick and Sylvia wear matching sweatshirts with April 30, 2012, imprinted on the front. That’s the date of their first date. They were friends for about three years before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. He gave her a promise ring a week after their first real date. Four months later, he proposed. She screamed “and almost fell over” before saying yes. The commotion woke up her mother. They will marry June 15 at the church where they met. Darick will sing a solo and play guitar during the ceremony. Sylvia’s family will prepare food for the reception. Sylvia has planned everything herself, choosing colors of pink and blue. She will have two maids of honor. He will have a best man and one groomsman. They will have a junior bride and junior groom, plus a flower girl and ring bearer. The invitations go out soon.
“It surprises me,” Darick said. “I’m surprised what I’m able to do. I thought I’d never be married. I thought I’d be single the rest of my life.”
His mother, Christine, thought that, too. She’s worried about the challenges the young couple faces, but then don’t all mothers worry when their children move out on their own? The two things she worries about most for them are money management and maturity, but she is letting go and having faith that it will all work out.
“I want most of all for Darick to be happy. That is the most important thing to me,” she said. “They love each other, that’s for sure.”
Christine affectionately refers to her son and his fiancé as “the odd couple,” because Sylvia completed a two-year degree at Harrison College and now is enrolled at Ivy Tech, but Darick has only a Certificate of Completion from high school due to his special education placement. “They’re at opposite extremes,” Christine said.
Darick and Sylvia don’t see it that way. They know they complement each other.
“She’s very good at schooling,” he said about her. “She’s helping me get better at things like budgeting money.”
“He’s fun to be with,” she said about him. “He can clean, and I hate to clean.”
Sylvia doesn’t consider Darick “special” in any way other than being special to her. And she knows something about special needs. Her brother, Sean, has autism and lives in one of ADEC’s group homes. Sylvia said she loves Darick, in part, because he reminds her a little of her brother with his sweetness.
“It just works,” she says.
“It works,” agrees Darick. “You just have to pick the right girl. It took me a long time to pick the right girl.”
Check back for updates on Darick and Sylvia as their wedding day approaches…